There is no perfect way to date. You can’t absolutely ensure that he is gorgeous, that she is sweet and funny, and that you will connect on an intimate level that makes you say “I love you.” However, as long as you go in with the right mindset (you’re going to have fun!) and are armed with the right conversation topics, you’re well on your way to success.

[That’s what she said…on the way to success.]

The right mind-set

Start by welcoming any criticisms or comments. Whether they’re about your looks, your age, or your personality, it’s important to be open to honest feedback. Rehearse your answers to common criticisms, be ready with a winning comeback, and you’ll be well-equipped to handle almost any criticism, even the mean-spirited ones, which can be a good thing since every dating person on earth can be judgmental about something.

And if you get too many of the same comments, you can change your style to avoid this annoying pattern. A good rule of thumb is to occasionally switch the order of your clothes. On a date, the woman should wear the dressier outfit, and you should go with something less-restrictive. If everyone is remarking on how pretty you look in that dress, go to dinner in jeans and a T-shirt. On the flip side, if your date is endlessly complimenting you on your jeans, go to a dressy bar and change into your Sunday best. If he is flirting with a cute girl and doesn’t pay attention to you, go to a crowded restaurant and sit in a secluded corner. You want to rise above the superficial talk.

So if criticism bothers you, just remind yourself that you don’t need to defend yourself or justify yourself, you just need to overcome it in a good way. The most important part of dating is to take a step back and enjoy yourself. Look forward to what’s to come, not back at your previous partners. The number one way to improve your dating life is to enjoy yourself, so stop worrying about what others will think of you, and stop worrying about whether or not you are good enough. You are worthy of dating. You’re pretty great, in fact, and you should pat yourself on the back and realize how great you are every once in a while.

On the other hand, if you’re running a little out of steam in a relationship, you can always look
Whether you want to get involved in casual dating or move into a relationship, there are a number of important things to consider when looking at the world of dating in 2013. Here are a few tips to help you navigate the dating game:

Let’s Be Honest

The first thing to remember when it comes to dating is that you’re only as good as your last date. Meeting people is easy, but to get to the point where you’re dating the man/woman of your dreams, you have to treat them like the person they are. If your ex thinks he could’ve done better, chances are he’ll hold that against you—this isn’t a secret. Take the approach of being straight with yourself: if you found someone attractive, why did you not pursue that relationship? Even if you can’t change what happened, acknowledge it and find a way to move on.

Be prepared to be judged

Since being judged by others is a fact of modern life, take it as a compliment when someone engages in conversation about you. If someone likes you enough to want to talk about you, they generally don’t care what you look like or how much money you make or whether you have the approval of your family or friends. Conversations about you are conversations about what you are and who you are to that person.

You’re worth it

If you think you’re too good for your current relationship, and are looking for someone new, remember that you’re worth it. Everyone deserves to be happy, and there are more than enough men and women out there who want to find someone. If you’re looking for a relationship, and are tired of seeing men/women who don’t treat you with respect, then you deserve to have someone that values you.

Date to enjoy yourself

If you’re someone who looks at dating as a task to be accomplished—that is, a chore to be done—you will be less likely to have the best time. If this sounds like you, you need to stop treating dating as something you have to do in order to make someone else happy. Dating should be fun, and anyone who makes it a task is setting himself/herself up for failure. If you enjoy meeting new people, talking about new things, and having new experiences, then you will enjoy your time on the dating scene.

Be in the moment

The first thing to do when you go on a date is to be in the moment. When you’re in the moment

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